ProverbHub
Arabic · Arabic scriptProverb: Verified

«مِنْ أَعْطَى سِرُّهْ لِامْرَاتُهْ يَا طُولْ عَذَابُهْ وِشَتَاتُهْ»

Meanings

Each meaning is reviewed on its own.

Meaning: Verified
English translation

A man who tells his wife his secrets is in for endless misery and turmoil.

Literal wording

Whoever gave his secret to his wife, oh how long his torment and his disarray!

Meaning and lesson

The proverb warns a man that confiding his private affairs to his wife will bring him lasting trouble. Once the secret leaves his keeping, he can expect prolonged suffering and a life thrown into confusion, because the matter is no longer under his control.

Beneath the warning lies a wider point about discretion: keep sensitive matters to yourself rather than entrusting them to someone who might let them slip. The saying makes that point by singling out the wife as the risky confidant, a gendered generalization about who can be trusted that should not be presented as sound advice.

When it is used

Spoken as a warning to a man about to confide something sensitive to his wife, or as a pointed remark once a shared secret has led to trouble. Its force is blunt and admonitory, and its gendered premise can easily give offense.

Cite or copy proverb