- English translation
A secret stays safe between two; let a third in and it is ruined.
- Literal wording
The secret is between two, and if the third comes, he spoils it.
- Meaning and lesson
This colloquial Arabic saying holds that a confidence stays safe only while just two people share it. Once a third person learns it, the secret is spoiled, meaning exposed or no longer safe, and likely to spread, so its safety shrinks with every added listener.
It serves as a warning to be very selective about whom one confides in, and as an explanation after the fact when private matters leak. It stresses discretion, limited trust, and the risk that widening a circle of knowledge brings exposure.
- When it is used
Use it to urge someone to keep a confidence within a very small circle, or to express regret after a private matter spreads once more people hear it. Its tone is cautionary: every additional person entrusted with a secret increases the chance of disclosure.
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