«اِللِّي يَاكُلْ لُقْمَهْ يُلْطُمْ لَطْمَهْ»

The saying links eating food at a mourning gathering with an expected display of grief. Someone who accepts a portion of the meal is portrayed as owing a corresponding act of participation in the mourning.

Its force comes from pairing receiving food with joining the occasion’s visible sorrow. The image of face-slapping refers specifically to a mourning gesture in this context, not to ordinary assault or a general endorsement of such practices.

Use it when discussing the expectation that someone who shares in a mourning meal should also participate in the gathering’s observances of grief. Avoid it in sensitive bereavement situations, where its imagery may be distressing.