- English translation
Better hell with my husband than paradise in my father's home.
- Literal wording
Hell of my husband, and not paradise of my father.
- Meaning and lesson
Voiced by a woman, the proverb expresses her view that staying with her husband, even when the marriage is an unhappy one, is preferable to going back to live under her father's roof.
By calling married life hell and the father's house paradise, the saying presents the preference as firm despite admitted hardship. It records a historical attitude about women's dependence on marriage, not advice to endure an unhappy or harmful marriage.
- When it is used
Said by, or about, a married woman who stays with her husband despite discontent rather than return to her father's household. It records her preference, and should not be used to discourage a woman from leaving a marriage or seeking her family's support.
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