- English translation
He went to propose on his friend's behalf and came back married to her himself.
- Literal wording
He went to ask for her hand for him; he married her.
- Meaning and lesson
The picture is of a man sent to seek a woman's hand for someone else who ends up marrying her himself. The courtship scene is only a frame: service as a trusted go-between turns into taking the very prize he was meant to secure for another.
More broadly, it condemns a base person who is asked to help with some matter and then grabs the benefit for himself. Aimed at a real person, it accuses them of base betrayal, not mere luck or rivalry, through the contrast between the helping role accepted and the selfish outcome arranged.
- When it is used
Say it, with a sardonic edge, when any intermediary trusted to act for another, such as negotiating or seeking a favor, hijacks the outcome for personal gain. Applied to someone, it is a serious charge of betrayal; it also warns about choosing intermediaries.
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