- Meaning and lesson
The saying urges goodwill toward nearby people while preserving sensible personal limits. Its older “thy” gives the traditional wording an archaic tone. Kindness, cooperation, and affection do not require surrendering boundaries that protect one’s home, privacy, property, or independence.
The hedge figuratively represents a prudent separation between neighbours. The point is not hostility, isolation, or a recommendation to distrust neighbours; rather, stable relations can depend on clear limits that prevent familiarity, obligation, or access from becoming intrusive.
- When it is used
Use it when advising someone to remain friendly and helpful without abandoning reasonable boundaries. It suits situations involving neighbours, shared spaces, personal privacy, business dealings, or other relationships where warmth should be balanced with self-protection, not suspicion.
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Report an issue with this meaning: Love thy neighbour, but pull not down thy hedge.