- English translation
No need to tell the father: the next little one is already holding this one's hand.
- Literal wording
Don't you tell his father; his hand is in his brother's hand.
- Meaning and lesson
The saying is a consoling response to a miscarriage. The unnamed 'he' is the lost child, and his 'brother' is a future baby rather than a living sibling, pictured as already holding his hand. This suggests the mother will soon conceive again, so the loss need not weigh heavily on anyone.
The instruction to keep the news from the father carries its own folk logic. It reflects traditional beliefs, not medical fact, that a woman who miscarries quickly becomes pregnant again, and that keeping the father unaware might even hasten the next conception. The proverb therefore offers both comfort and a small protective custom.
- When it is used
Traditionally spoken to comfort a woman, or her household, after a miscarriage, promising another pregnancy soon; keeping the news from the father follows a folk notion about hastening conception. Because pregnancy loss is sensitive, words meant as comfort in one setting may feel dismissive in another.
- Register
- colloquial
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