«شَامْتَهْ وِمْعَزِّيَّهْ»

The saying describes a person who presents herself as a mourner or comforter while actually taking pleasure in the misfortune of the one she visits. Both Arabic words are feminine participles, so it grammatically points at a woman; outward condolence covers inner gloating, exposing a contradiction between display and feeling.

More broadly, it marks any sympathy that is hollow or two-faced: a visit made less to share someone's sorrow than to witness it with quiet satisfaction. The pairing works as a compact verdict, naming the hidden motive behind a socially proper gesture of comfort.

Said about someone who arrives with words of sympathy after another's loss or setback while privately relishing it. Applying it to a person is an accusation of hypocrisy and hidden malice, not a neutral remark, typically voiced by an observer who sees through the visit.