- English translation
She set out to avenge her father and came home carrying a child.
- Literal wording
She went to take her father's revenge; she came back pregnant.
- Meaning and lesson
The saying pictures a woman who leaves home to avenge her father and restore the family's honor, only to return pregnant. Its force rests on an older view of pregnancy outside marriage as grave family dishonor: the mission meant to erase one shame delivers a worse disgrace.
More broadly, it mocks any attempt at correction that backfires so badly that the remedy outdoes the original injury. Though the fixed image is feminine, it can figuratively describe anyone who set out to repair a loss and came back having made matters considerably worse.
- When it is used
Use it, often wryly, when someone's effort to wipe out a humiliation or settle a score produces a fresh and worse embarrassment. Because it relies on gendered sexual shame, avoid aiming it at a real woman or situation; it suits informal talk among familiar listeners.
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- Colloquial, vernacular Arabic
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