- English translation
The one who rejoices at your misfortune is given away by his eyes.
- Literal wording
Gloating shows in the eye of the gloater.
- Meaning and lesson
The proverb holds that private delight in an enemy's trouble cannot stay fully hidden. However carefully a person guards their words and manner, the satisfaction slips out through the eyes, where a glance or a gleam betrays what the mouth denies.
More broadly, it observes that strong feelings, especially spiteful ones, tend to overpower self-discipline. Onlookers can therefore read hostility in a face even when it is masked by polite condolence, so feigned concern rarely convinces those who watch closely.
- When it is used
Say it when someone claims sympathy or neutrality over a rival's setback but their face suggests quiet pleasure. It also works as a general remark that spiteful satisfaction is hard to disguise. Aimed at a specific person, it accuses them of malice and can easily land as an insult.
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