- English translation
If you cannot meet the cost of something, leave it to someone who can.
- Literal wording
Whoever cannot afford the red mare and her feed should keep out of her way.
- Meaning and lesson
The proverb advises a person not to take on a possession, undertaking, or commitment whose continuing demands exceed their means or ability. Wanting something attractive is not enough; one must also be able to meet the obligations that come with it.
It can be offered as practical counsel or as a rebuke when someone reaches for what they cannot properly sustain. Its force is to urge restraint: step aside rather than accept responsibility and then fail to provide the care or support it requires.
- When it is used
Used when someone pursues an expensive or demanding undertaking without being able to support it. Traditionally, it may be applied to marriage or household responsibilities; in that setting it can sound judgmental or demeaning by treating a partner in terms of material upkeep and capability.
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